If there’s ever a time you want your partner to put their phone down, it’s probably when you’re strapped into a neck brace, crying, in an ER, possibly minutes away from a stroke.
But for today’s Original Poster (OP), this nightmare scenario wasn’t a hypothetical. It was real, and it’s stuck with her like a bruise that never faded. A year after this incident, she just couldn’t let go of the pain her husband caused her when she was in so much pain and he found it to be the right time to scroll through TikTok and ask for food.
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The author had suffered serious injuries from a high fall and was rushed to the ER, where she felt terrified waiting for a diagnosis
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Her husband, on the other hand, reacted with indifference, scrolling on his phone and expressing frustration over his own hunger
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His lack of empathy deeply hurt her, especially given her fears of life-threatening injury and her family history
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Even after a year, she still struggled with the physical ache of the incident and the emotional pain of her husband’s resentment and lack of support
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In an update, she stated that she and her husband eventually split up due to his constant downplaying of the situation and a difference in their values
One year ago, the OP suffered a serious fall from a high height. Though she didn’t hit her head, the impact left her with both neck and brain injuries, enough for urgent care to immediately send her to the emergency room due to the risk of massive trauma. In the ER, she was placed in a neck brace, tested for neurological damage, and prepped for a contrast CT scan.
There were fears she might have a torn blood vessel or even an aneurysm, especially harrowing considering that’s how her grandmother passed away. As she sat in tears, bracing for what could be a life-altering diagnosis, her husband of eight years was scrolling TikTok. When she asked her partner to be present, his response was annoyance.
He lashed out, saying there was no point in worrying since they didn’t know anything yet. Then, bizarrely, he complained about being hungry and how he hadn’t eaten, despite her having made food. He ordered burgers for himself from DoorDash. She acknowledged that he had been off his antidepressants for a few days, though it was hard to excuse the emotional absence.
She still lives with daily neck pain, lingering cognitive effects, and POTS (postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome). On top of the physical toll, their marriage has unraveled and intimacy has almost entirely ceased, much to his resentment. However, beyond that, he continues to downplay her feelings, insisting he wouldn’t have cared if the roles were reversed.
However, she just couldn’t forget how he laughed while she cried. She questioned how she could ever trust or open herself again to someone who was so emotionally unavailable when it mattered most. In the end, she gave an update stating that she and her husband had split up after realizing how unhappy she was in the marriage and how their values didn’t align anymore.
To better understand why some partners struggle to handle crises emotionally, We reached out to marriage counselor Ronke Adesina, who shared common signs that indicate a lack of emotional readiness in difficult situations. “A partner who isn’t emotionally equipped often withdraws or shuts down, struggles to communicate their feelings, or becomes defensive and irritable when under stress,” she explained.
“They might avoid addressing the problem or minimize its seriousness, which leaves their loved one feeling unsupported and isolated.” She added that such individuals may also have difficulty managing their own anxiety or anger, causing reactions that escalate tension rather than soothe it.
When asked about the effects of emotional neglect during a crisis, Adesina pointed out its damaging impact on intimacy and trust. “Emotional neglect can seriously weaken a couple’s bond,” she said, adding that “when one partner feels unsupported, resentment builds, and it becomes harder to be open or vulnerable.”
She further explained that over time, this lack of support can lead to doubts about the other’s reliability and commitment, and also stressed that rebuilding the relationship requires “honest communication, empathy, and a steady effort to show up emotionally consistently and sincerely.”
Finally, we asked how to know when a relationship might no longer be salvageable, especially if emotional support remains absent. Adesina was clear that “if one partner continues to feel hurt despite clear communication and efforts to address the issue, it signals a deep disconnect.”
She also added that “when someone has sought help, whether through conversation, counseling, or reflection, and still feels unheard or sees no change, it may be time to consider that the relationship isn’t meeting essential emotional needs and may not be sustainable.”
Netizens were supportive of the OP, with many validating her pain and confirming that she was not overreacting. They emphasized that in a moment of crisis, emotional support is non-negotiable, and her husband’s complete detachment was seen as deeply troubling.
What do you think about this situation? Is it fair to say a marriage is over after a moment like this, or should forgiveness always be on the table? We would love to hear your thoughts!
Netizens expressed their disappointment in the husband’s actions and insisted that she wasn’t overreacting by feeling so hurt by what happened
